Two of my friends will be expecting their second child within a few weeks. When they had first learned they would have a new addition to their family, their cozy turn-of-the-century bungalow in Oak Park, Illinois seemed a little too cozy. It was decided that more family meant the need for more space. So they started talking about what their ideas were for the perfect family home. The idea of “space” became the buzzword that seemed to overtake every conversation. “More space!” went the mantra. “We’re going to have another baby, we naturally need more space!”
Well, once the idea of “More Space” took root, they began looking at new homes. Farther and farther west of Chicago they looked at bigger and bigger new homes. Just when they thought they had seen the biggest house they could afford, another town farther west would have a subdivision with even larger homes in their price range. Two-stories, Three-stories, Four-stories! Every night they would return from these expeditions to their little bungalow, their heads swimming with visions of vaulted ceilings and grand staircases to level after level. And yet…something kept them from signing the dotted line on one of the vinyl-sided behemoths.
Every night that they came home to their tiny 100-year old home in Oak Park, they would feel comfort at the sound of creaky wooden floors. The rooms were small, but well laid-out with features like shelves and seating built into the fabric of the house to save space. The human-sized scale of its proportions made the house feel warm and inviting. Plaster walls helped insulate and dampen the noise of the city. They slowly came to realize that the idea of “more space” lead them to ignore all the other aspects of a home that they appreciated and needed just as much.
They started to realize that in focusing on the allure of “space,” they had looked at homes that would add hours onto their commutes. They also realized that what they thought they were saving on a mortgage would quickly be eaten up in utility costs for heating and cooling all that “space”. Suddenly they realized the absurdity of 4 people living in a house that was big enough for 8. They decided then and there not to make this home purchase based on an idea of “want,” but instead on what their family actually needed.
This sort of epiphany is at the heart of the PrairieMod Principle of “Consider the Cost.” So many times we make major life decisions based on ideas of what we want, or what we think someone else wants, or what we are lead (or sold) to believe we want. Rarely do we take the time to examine the principles behind what we really need in our lives. Frank Lloyd Wright once said:
“A principle is a marvelous thing. It never changes. It is elemental. You first apprehend the nature of the principle, then you begin to realize the limitations, the felicities and the force of the principle.”
The Principle of “Consider the Cost” says that there are many facets to a decision and all should be examined before the decision should be made and it can be considered sound. So many people are terribly unhappy with their job, their house, their car, and their life because they don’t stop to consider the “needs” from the “wants”. There is a cost to be paid in every decision we make. It can be a monetary cost, a time cost, an energy cost or ultimately a happiness cost. Considering these costs in advance of making a decision can ensure that it is made in a sound and principled way. This will lead to a harmony and a confidence that the decision is the right one to be made. A decision that you will feel good about wanting, because you have first considered all the ways that you actually need to make it.
My friends ultimately decided to move out of the little bungalow in Oak Park. Even though there were many things they loved about that home, after considering all the costs, they felt they still needed more room to let their family grow. What they decided on instead of going to the Wild Vinyl West, was to buy another older home in Oak Park. Nothing too fancy, something that needed a little TLC, but a little bigger and within the price range of all of their costs.